Phony People: Can You Spot One?
When a person is inauthentic, they don’t want to be found out, so their defenses go up and they become uncomfortable. On situations like this, check out facial expressions, body language and speech patterns. Does the person avoid eye contact? Does he/she lean away from you when he/she is talking? Or cross his/her arms tightly over his/her chest? These are all examples of defensive, possibly phony behavior as explained by Cynthia Cohen a Los Angeles psychologist.
Further, a fake will just smile with the lips, while a truly happy person smiles with the whole face-the eyes, forehead, mouth and cheeks. In addition to that, look for micro-expressions, those quick, intense, telling expressions.
Oh, now I wish I was a psychologist. It would be easy for me to identify and eradicate the phony people in my life. Do you have the same wish?
Yes, fakes can be spotted a mile away. True. Body language is a pretty good indicator of what a person really feels, except when that person is an artista.
Somehow I was trained in reading body language because I had a sales and marketing job for a long time. Much of my corporate life was spent reading people during the entire sales process. Thing is, customers or would be customers rarely tell you what they want. Much is said, none of which is what they really want to express:-(
When I put up my own business, my selling was done on the phone most of the time. And it is much harder to read someone’s mind when he/she is 15-20 kilometers away:-) Voice inflections, minor or otherwise can mean disapproval or frustration, boredom, disinterest, dissatisfaction, etc.
I think the key is one’s own sincerity, if you are real, you WOULD know who is not. As they say, you can not sting an honest person.
BTW here’s something about entrecard:
Please refer to:
http://ibanagcooking.blogspot.com/2008/05/its-julianas-world.html
Ah, but I guess that was not necessary because of your Comment Luv plugin
Also, I think you were asking from what part of RP I am?
Good morning from sunny Marikina:-)
Cheers!
@ lotusflower
you nailed it in the head. amen to this. oh, and we have one thing in common, I was in the same industry (sales & marketing) as you when I was still in corporate management at P & G. dakilang maybahay na lang ngayon.
thanks for the mention sa post mo. I did leave a comment on your blog, if you haven’t seen it, I’m not sure na if it went thru.
have a great day!
thinking how people can really create their own mask in front of other people, i wished i took up psych also in college. this was my second choice for college but i went with bio instead…
sometimes I can tell if a person is just like a walking tupperware or being phony. You can tell by their actions too. But there are those who are so good in acting and you can’t really tell.