An it degree was the most remote field I would have ever gotten into. My interest was in writing and the arts, but because I tried to be an obedient child I gave in to my Mom’s wishes.
She wanted a Doctor in the family. With two nurses for the first two children, mother wanted to complete the team. She had her dreams for each of her five children – two nurses (first two), foreign service officer (third child), doctor (fourth child), and a lawyer (youngest).
I can’t blame my Mom. She came from a family of achievers (cousins, uncles). But because she is an only child she wanted to pattern her own family from her extended family.
Fast forward: the five children all got their degrees. Yes, she has two nurses, a businesswoman (degree in B.S. Foreign Service), the would be lawyer finished a degree in Political Science and went to Law School but didn’t finish and now working in Management, and me – yes, I completed the Bachelors Degree in Medical Technology (the best four years preparatory course to Medicine, I believe) but I refused to go to Medical School after graduation. Instead, I took my licensure exam, passed it and from there I found my way into Sales and Marketing by taking short courses and the College offered for free as part of my perks while working in mid-Management at P & G. Certainly, an it degree was not required in the line of work that I chose.
Is the matriarch happy? I think so. She has for so long accepted the fact that she can only dream her dreams for her children. In the end, it will still be dependent on the children if they dream about the same dream and what she wanted for them was what they wanted to be when they grew up.